Entry 15 – Keirsey Temperament revisited.

My keirsey temperament is ENFJ. According to the keirsey website, ENFJs tend to look for partners who want a long relationship, are very supportive of their partner’s goals in life, and take great pleasure in making their partner happy. In addition, the website goes on to caution that ENFJs must learn to deal with problems in the relationship despite their instincts to avoid trouble and that sometimes ENFJs are too eager to please in the relationship, thus resulting in either resentment or even its failure. In my opinion, I think that I would be supportive of my partner’s own goals in life and that I would take pleasure in helping them reach those goals in whatever way I could. However, I don’t think that I would look only for partners minded for the long-term relationship, because to be honest I value the fact that I am single and that I have the freedom to sleep around (responsibly of course) if I could and/or wanted to. Also, I could see how I would have a problem with resolving conflict within the relationship and that I’d be very eager to continually make my mate happy, thus possibly causing her to think that I am needy.

The keirsey website didn’t really offer much advice as to whom ENFJs tend to pair up with, but it did say that ENFJs look for a partner that wants a long-term relationship and that can also appreciate their eagerness to please. However after finding a website that details the personality types that typically form a great relationship with ENFJs, I found that some of the best personality types that pair with mine are INTP, ENTP, INTJ, and ENTJ. I agree with this fact because I like to think that my future partner will be as imaginative as I am and that they’d be as loyal and attentive to the relationship. Some other reasons for my agreement are that these four types have a hard time exploring feelings, which is something that my personality type does very well, and all four are known for tackling problems, which is something my personality struggles with, and so in these ways my personality type would compliment either of the four very well. Similarly, I personally would like my partner to be appreciative or at least touched by my persistence to put a smile on their face, intelligent, open-minded to new and imaginative ideas, and that supports me in my own personal endeavours.